It's amazing when on its own the human spirit is hard headed. One of the biggest lessons I've learned while developing a relationship with God is He's not an enabler. It's true God can do any and all things but there are many things we can physically do for ourselves. We can commission His Spirit to aid us in a task but it's against the word of God to idly sit by and do nothing. Having pity parties and wanting people to feel sorry for us all the time. There's a thin line between being an enabler and a helper.