set an excellent example.
Some ladies and I were discussing the recent nuptials of Mariah Cannon and Nick Cannon. I jokingly made the comment that I can definitely marry Omarion now. I think he's the cutest.
But seriously, I heard Nick Cannon say that Mariah made him wait for sex until after they were married. In his words "ladies, that's how you get your man." I totally agree. And it's not about playing games, 'cause truth be told a man can get sex anywhere. But it's about knowing your self-worth, and knowing that as WOMEN, we're much better than any two minute thrill.
Personally, I look at it from a biblical perspective. There are several scriptures that tells the truth about fornication; Matthew 15:19 and Romans 1:29
You can read the verses before and after to get the full meaning of what Jesus is saying. I suggest the Amplied or Message bibles for clarity.
Even if you can't get with Jesus' point of view, just think of where your actions have gotten you thus far, especially if you are in your 30's and beyond. I'll be 40 in a few months, and I've struggled with this area for years. My judgment was clouded by popular culture and what their take on sex before marriage is all about, as well as a man who I thought I loved telling me that no man will ever marry me before I had sex with him. I now realize that he didn't know what the helicopter he was talking about. In all honesty, society as a whole doesn't value the union of marriage anymore.
But for those women who want something different, then it's about time WE DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. How many times have you laid down with a man only to think afterwards "what in the hell just happened here." It wasn't even worth it? Been there, done that, got the t-shirt!
Until a "real man" is ready to get to know you and grow to love the woman that God has called you to be, real love making can't take place. When two people are in love and in sync with one another, love making is a perpetual thing. Just ponder that for a minute!
Having someone that makes you feel his love even when you are miles apart. Not that puppy love, but that "GROWN FOLKS LOVE." Man, I am so looking forward to that. I am a visionary, so I can see it very clearly for myself.
Tyler Perry illustrates excellent examples of how a man is designed to pursue a man in his plays and movies. Remember "Bobby" from "I CAN DO BAD ALL BY MYSELF", "Orlando" from "DIARY..."(the movie), and a number of others. Ladies, please don't continue to believe the hype. There are some "real men" left in this world. They didn't disappear when we entered our 30's and 40's. If it's a woman's desire to be married, then God has designed a "man' especially for her. And yes, that man is willing to wait.
I could go on and on, but I will close with this.
(1) DECIDE what you want in relationship
(2) SET some standards
(3) ACT on them. If marriage is not for you then so be it, but if it is, STOP the insanity and GET the love you deserve. I know I am going to get mine.
I wish all my ladies, LOVE, PEACE, AND EMPOWERMENT in the '09.
GOD BLESS YOU!!!
STEPHANIE
P.S. After posting this blog, I received a MSG saying that their are reports that Nick was after Mariah's money. I don't know if that's true; I try hard not to follow rumors. Those of you who read this will get the point that I am making here, right.
